What’s wrong?

A man and a woman lying on a bed in a dimly lit bedroom, appearing to be awake and looking away from each other.

You’re not quite sure if it’s you or them. Are you just sexually incompatible? You try to be honest, but you wind up feeling unreasonable.

You feel “not enough” and “too much” at the same time.

You’ve tried addressing the elephant in the bedroom, but it always seems to turn into a fight or lead to hurt feelings. But ignoring it doesn’t seem to be helping either.

You’re afraid of the resentment building inside.

Get your libido in sync with a sex and relationship expert.

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Hi! My name is Dr. Annie Snow, and I’m an ABS certified sexologist. My signature solutions are well-researched and highly effective, helping couples move from a place of frustration to sexual connection.

Common Culprits of Mismatched Desire:

Misinformation

Have you been fed the myth that men in general have a higher libido than women? Yeah, it’s bullshit. So much of the frustration around sex is rooted in faulty information and unrealistic expectations—of ourselves and of our partners.

By working with a sexual scholar, you can unlearn a lot of the unhelpful messages about how desire works so you can get in sync with your partner.

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Skills Deficit

Do you know who the most orgasmic women are? Lesbians. Decades of research suggest that lesbians often have a better understanding of how their partner’s bodies work and what their sexual needs are.

That doesn’t mean that women in non-lesbian partnerships are sexually doomed. Rather, there are skills that male partners can learn to better satisfy women so that sex feels less obligatory and more orgasmic.

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Domestic Inequality

Stress is the OG libido killer, and certain populations are more prone to overwhelm. For instance, moms take on 79% of household jobs (over twice as much as dads), and stress is a natural byproduct.

A big part of libido syncing is balancing household duties: ensuring that there is more equity so that sex doesn’t feel like just another chore.

What former clients
are saying

"By the time I reached out, I had pretty much lost all hope. I didn't think my relationship could be saved. I had tried everything and I was exhausted. Annie is a legit miracle worker!!!

I'm finally able to communicate with my partner without things escalating into a fight. I feel closer than ever before. I'm so glad I didn't give up.”

— Former client with libido frustration.
Shared with permission.

"I was so tired of feeling like there was something wrong with me for not wanting to have as much sex as my husband. It turns out it’s not that I didn’t want to have sex.

I just didn’t want to have the kind of sex we were having. I had no clue things could be different. Shifting things around, following our sync plan, and discovering what I actually want has been a total game changer."

— Former client with libido frustration.
Shared with permission.

If your relationship is on life support, you don’t need yet another “active listening” guide. And you don’t need to pull the plug just yet.

You may need an experienced therapist who has helped hundreds of couples resuscitate their dying relationship and experience a more fulfilling sex life.